Reddit users split over the stepmother’s birthday present for the “creepy” sex toy given to a 16-year-old girl
A 16-year-old girl sparked an online debate after revealing the “inappropriate” birthday present from her stepmother.
The girl shared on Reddit that she felt “super uncomfortable” and “hurt” when her father’s wife gave her a vibrator for her 16th birthday.
The teenager compared the unusual gift to “sexual harassment” and said that although she knew her stepmother was trying to be a “cool mom”, she was disturbed by the gesture.
But while many Reddit users described the unusual gift as “creepy” and “gross”, others defended the actions of the “unsuspecting” stepmother.
In her post, the teen asked for advice on whether to tell her mother and father about the stepmother’s gift.
“I’m 16. Today is my birthday,” she wrote.
“My father’s wife tried to surprise me with a vibrator. I know this wasn’t meant to seduce me or anything, she’s just trying to make me like her because it’s pretty clear that I don’t.
“She gave a little speech that went like this, ‘I’m the COOL stepmother,’ basically, ‘Would your mom give you this?’
“But that made me very uncomfortable. It felt like sexual harassment when it wasn’t.
“I told her I didn’t want it and she said it was fine, but I shouldn’t let stigma bother me and she’ll keep it to me if I change my mind.
“To be honest, it hurts me. I know it will be over if I never bring it up again, but somehow I want to tell my parents.
“I know they’ll be so mad at you, but outside of me, making me feel uncomfortable, I don’t know if it would be mean to do that. Because they’re really going to lose their shit on her.
“But that just made me so gross and I didn’t like her. Isn’t that an obvious limit that you don’t cross? “
The teenager went on to explain that her stepmother was only 29 years old and they were not in a close relationship.
“We hardly know each other, no, I wouldn’t want the vibrator either if we were friends,” she said.
“I don’t like her because she had an affair with my father when he was married to my mother.”
Many Reddit users were disgusted with the stepmother’s actions.
“Take that from someone who has given vibrators to people in the past: this is very, very inappropriate,” said one.
“A grown woman should have no interest in how a 16-year-old gets away, other than being sure that she is safe.
“I think it would be a good idea to tell a parent yes. If it were my daughter, I would want to know if an adult is actively interested in their sex life so that I can switch it off. “
Another said, “I love my vibrator, but it would be scary as hell if a relative gave me one.”
A third added, “Imagine this was a man who bought his 16-year-old stepchild a sex toy.”
Wrote another: “You are 16? This is very creepy and inappropriate at best. I think you should tell your parents. “
Others said the stepmother had “good intentions” and didn’t mean anything bad by the gift.
“The 29-year-old doesn’t know how to deal with a teenager, so she tries to think about what she was talking about with her friends at that age and what she would have wanted from her mother,” said one.
“The stepmother’s intention is basically good. But she didn’t “read the room” or [see that her stepdaughter] She never asked her about sex and she thought that might bring her closer. “
Another said, “It sounds to me like a 29 year old trying to be sex positive and kind of fooling herself.
“There are some 16 year olds who would be comfortable with this gift, but not you. She just misjudged that.
“I would put it in the back of your closet and forget about it. It sounds like she meant well and was trying to get you to like her. “
In response to the “conflicting” advice, the teen said she had decided how to deal with the situation.
“I’ll go with my gut feeling because I was uncomfortable, even if she didn’t mean it, I’ll tell my parents,” she said.
“I know you would want to know.”